Breaking the Patterns That Lie Beneath Family Problems
On the surface things may seem like they are just fine, but young children act out, or teens are getting in trouble. Mom's and/or dad's are unhappy, and there are hard feelings with members of the extended family. As with any complex system it can be very difficult to figure out exactly why family problems occur over and over. But even when problems seem unsolvable, there is reason for hope that things will get better.
At Fergus Falls Family Counseling we believe that families and the way the work (or don't work!) are more than the sum of their parts. Family functioning is the result of history, often stretching back for multiple generations, as well as of current psychological and social situations. We believe that in many cases the seemingly obvious problems are in fact symptoms of underlying relationship patterns and communication styles that families may not even recognize. We help families figure out what's really causing their relationship struggles and teach methods, tailored to each family, that will help change those patterns.
While every family is unique, some families are living with situations that are particularly challenging. These include medical illnesses, grief / loss, adoptions, infertility, substance use disorders, and couples who are creating a new family with children from previous relationships.
Q. What "qualifies" as a family? A. There is no easy answer to that question, except to say that the concept of family extends far beyond the traditional group of mom, dad, and kids. Some families include one parent. Others may have several, if partners from previous relationships are actively involved. Some family groups include adult brothers and sisters, and grandparents. Some families include friends. The simplest way to look at it is that your family is whomever you believe it is.
Q. Must everyone in the family participate for therapy to be effective? A. Again, it depends on the family. But in many cases it is important that every family members, from the youngest on up, take part in therapy. Most family difficulties affect everyone in the family, whether or not they appear to be involved.
Q. What is family therapy like? A. In most cases, the first two sessions are devoted to gathering information about the family and about the challenges that brought it to family therapy. Then it is possible to develop a plan for treatment. At this point families often pause to consider whether they want to continue therapy. Once families decide to continue, the next several sessions are spent really digging into patterns of family behavior, sometimes extending back several generations. Once there's a good understanding of those patterns, further sessions focus on learning to implement solutions. Every family situation is unique, so therapy may take only a few sessions, or it might take many.
Q. Where does therapy take place? A. In most cases, we meet with families at our office on Cascade Ave. However we sometimes make arrangements to meet with a family at their home, particularly if that makes it possible for everyone in the family to participate.
Q. What does family therapy cost? A. We charge $90 per 50-minute session. On some occasions, particularly with larger families, it might be decided to conduct 90-minute sessions, for which the fee is $185 per session. In some cases, Fergus Falls Family Counseling offers reduced fees to qualifying families.
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